in the heart was not meant there to stay. Love is not love
till you give it away". For love to be ever lasting and eternal
every one should be aware of the different stages of love
and know its significance. Following are the different phases
through which you will travel in your love life and only those
who pass it will have an endless love.
Attraction can be defined as something, which is more than
friendship and is a step towards getting ready for a relationship.
Now attraction is of two types:
a. Physical Attraction - happens when your body reacts
to another person. Heart rate increases; temperature rises,
palms get sweaty; stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc.
This is what will tell you that you are ready for the first
contact and also whether you are comfortable in the company
of the other person.
b. Emotional Attraction -
develops next if the circumstances are right. After being
drawn to a person physically, you then begin to come closer.
If you find you have things in common -- hobbies, ideologies,
career, education, or some other common ground -- then an
emotional attraction starts to form. Sometimes an emotional
attraction can occur even when a physical attraction does
not. And in this case, the bond will be stronger between the
two who connect, since no preconceived notions based on physical
appearance has occurred.
Intimacy is something, which a person experiences when you
learn to trust and believe your lover. It is a close association
with another person of the deepest nature. You share you thoughts,
feelings, and dreams. You feel free to discuss everything
with this person and you are absolutely comfortable in his
company. Thus intimacy develops gradually. If you can't establish
intimacy with your partner, your relationship may work for
a while, but is unlikely to endure throughout the years. Intimacy
is actually the path to a true, healthy and beautiful relationship.
Romance is the essence of a relationship. Without romance
your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity
of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you be
a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration
of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally
and originates from within your heart. It makes you do things
that you possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise.
It shows you who you are and reminds you of the role you play
in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is
caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and
partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are
celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.
The third stage is passion, which basically means a desire
for another person, which has grown to an intensity that can't
be ignored. This is often where an emotional relationship
turns into a physical relationship. The passion stage is very
important. For from here you will understand the true meaning
and nature of your relationship. If there is no passion then
its best to let go but if there is passion in your relationship
then it is time to go on to the next stage.
The last stage is commitment. This is when you know that you
want to spend your whole life with this person you love and
you can do anything for him. It is when your whole world just
revolves round your lover and you take a pledge to remain
true to your mate throughout good and bad times, be by his
side whenever he needs you.
Thus remember all these stages if
you want your relationship to last forever. Believe me love
is worth the effort. All the best!