maintain a stable and healthy relationship is a difficult
task in itself and on top of that if you have to deal with
a long distance it can really be tough. However, many couples
have had to be miles apart because of job, study or other
reasons, and have been able to maintain a solid, happy, successful
relationship until they could be together again. In order
to cope up with the difficulties of staying away from your
lover/husband, there are some key elements that are necessary
to understand and incorporate, which have been explained below.
The first key to success with long distance relationships
is effective communication. A good communication will keep
your relationship alive and happy. It is important for both
parties to keep in touch with one another and to keep writing
and talking to one another. But communication should be from
both the sides. Both the parties should be able to feel that
if they need to talk or write to the other person, that act
must be reciprocated and met with active communication from
the other. The quality of the relationship is more likely
to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings
openly with each other and be able to convey one another how
much they miss and love one another.
The second key to success is trusting one another in long
distance relationship. Each partner should be able to trust
the other in such a way that one should not feel that the
other person's social life in his or her own town will be
a threat to the relationship. Trust is an important factor
in every relationship but in long distance relationships you
level of trust in your partner has to rise and you should
never do anything to make the other feel sad and uncomfortable
about the faith you have in the other person.
Respect for one another
A good relationship thrives on respect and admiration for
one another. You should be able to respect each other's feeling,
emotions and views. Never make the other person sad to prove
your point for what you are doing is showing disrespect, which
can really harm the relationship and make things bitter between
the two of you. In long distance relationship bitterness can
come in real quickly and can cause great deal of damage to
Making quality time for one another
The last important factor in long distance relationship is
to make quality time for one another. You should spend more
time with one another during visits and do things that will
make the both of you come close to each other. Live every
moment that you get to spend in each others company for these
are the moments that you have to cherish for the times that
you will be away form one another. However remember to allow
an "adjustment period" when visiting your long-distance love.
You've both been accustomed to the single life and the habits
that come with it, and it takes time to adjust to sharing
space with another person. But nothing to worry for the excitement
of having your love after such a long time will make things
right for the both of you.
Things that you can do when you are depressed or when you
are missing your love very much:
- If you have friends go out with them
to see a movie.
- Go for a long walk or drive.
- Exercise, jog, walk your dog.
- Cry if that helps.
- Buy a boxing sack and take out all
your frustrations on it.
- Scream aloud or sing a song.
- Go to see a comedy movie that
will make you laugh or watch an adventure movie
to take your mind away from the pain.
- Call your love and tell him/her how
you feel or mail him.
- Write a letter or poem and pour your