this might not be a problem with some but it might pose
to be a big problem for many. There is an easy way to do
this without it being tough on you or the other person.
Follow the following tips.
Don't just offer a generic invitation:
'Want to go out with me sometime?' That makes it really
hard for someone to say no. Which you might think is a
good thing--but it's not. It sets you up for an evening
with someone who doesn't want to be there, who's kicking
themselves for not having figured out a way to say no
nicely and who might have actually been psyched to date
you if only you'd gotten to know them a little first without
all the pressure. Thus DO NOT presume that the other person
wants to go out with you. It might just be the other way
around hence don't create an awkward situation for you
and of course for the other person.
Always ask someone out for a specific
thing. Make it easy on yourself also by making the rendezvous
in such a way that you were going to do it anyways. Like
inviting him/her to your house warming party or B'day
party or any other party. Or else you can invite him/her
to some get-together or picnic. First of all, you won't
be a nervous wreck asking someone out this way. After
all you could be asking them to come along out of friendship.
Second, they can say yes, or they can say, 'Sorry, I already
have plans, without it being a whole issue. This way you
will ensure that you are not embarrassed and also make
you know the person a bit more.
And never ask more than once. If the
person says no, they said no. (Unless they made it clear
that they genuinely had a previous commitment and would
have been otherwise interested: 'Wow, I love watching
Brad Pitt movie and want to be first on your list the
next time you get tickets.')