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YOU BE FRIENDS OR LOVERS |
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 Sometimes
it so happens that you fall in love with your best friend
and want to spend the rest of your life with him. Since you
spend most of your waking time with him and he understands
you and knows you inside out, you think that he is the right
guy for you. However what you think might be absolutely wrong.
He might be a good friend but not a good lover. Here are 5
situations in which you might want to consider just being
friends:
Are you ready for commitment?
This is the most important question you need to ask yourself.
As friends you lead a carefree life and friendship doesn't
involve responsibilities, expectations and commitments.
If these added responsibilities and expectations are causing
problems and apparently you spend more time arguing and
fighting than loving, then its better you stick to being
friends.
Your goals are completely
different.
If you are ambitious and want to achieve a certain goal in
your life but your partner is not then this might create lots
of problems in your relationship which might lead to bitterness
and despair. If that's a case in between you and your partner
then its best if you go back to the friendship stage and remain
friends forever.
Your moral values
are different.
For a relationship to be successful it is very necessary that
that you both have similar moral values. It is okay if your
views, interests and hobbies are different and infact different
points of view are often healthy for a relationship. However
if your moral values are different then the differences as
a result of that becomes a little too difficult to bridge.
Are you over-possessive?
If you are suffering from the syndrome called jealousy and
over-possessiveness then it is advisable that you remain just
friends. There are some women who become so possessive about
their friends or partner that they cant tolerate him speaking
to anybody. Also if you feel that your partner is jealous
and possessive then its better that you don't indulge into
a serious relationship with him to repent it later on.
Your relationship
is purely sexual.
While sex is an essential and integral part of any relationship,
a relationship built solely on sex is probably not going to
last. Thus if you think that all that you do when you meet
is indulge in sex then its better that you remain friends
and not lovers.
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