PARENTING WHINING CHILD
time that your child calls you "Moooommmeeee" you must want
to run away and hide somewhere. Whining has got to be the
ultimate in annoying childhood behavior. It is the most irritating
thing that a child can do and parents mostly give in to the
whining child's desire just to make her stop. Because a whining
child sounds worse than a frenetic siren alarm parents tend
to do anything to make it stop. Thus your little whiner discovers
a great way to get your undivided attention and her demands
met. Following are parenting techniques to make your child sp that annoying
This is the first and foremost thing to do. Never ever give
in to her whining demands. Tell her frankly that you will
not listen to her unless and until she uses her normal voice.
Turn your back to the whining child and ignore her completely.
Do your work, read a book, lock yourself in the bathroom or
in your room for sometime, turn on the radio. Do anything
but do not respond to her demands.
Remember one thing that pleading or trying to explain anything
to the whining child will only complicate matters. So do not
plead or discuss anything; it will only increase whining.
Keep a Peggy bank especially for her good behaviour. Put ten-one
rupee coins in it. Tell your child that every time she whines
or fusses you will take a coin out of the Peggy. Any coins
left over by the end of the day will be hers to keep as a
reward for good behaviour and for remembering to use her "big
girl voice." This technique will act as a good motivation.
Often children don't understand that what they are doing is
wrong and irritating. They do not understand that they are
whining and it has to stop. Explain to her what is whining
and demonstrate to her if necessary how annoying it is. Tell
her that you do not want her to whine and it is a horrible
thing to do. Every time she whines put your fingers in your
ears and say "yuck!" to show how disgusting it is. That will
give her a hint that what she just now did is bad and she
will find her regular voice. Help your child by demonstrating
what it is you want to hear.
Always praise your child's attempts at using a regular voice.
Help and encourage her and always remember she needs your
help, love and support. Try to say, "yes" to a request made
in a regular, polite voice unless and until it is absolutely
crazy request. For example, if your child normally whines
about having chocolates and cold drinks, and today she asks
pleasantly in a normal voice, try to give her at least a small
bite or a little cold drink to reward her for her appropriate
manners. Make sure you tell her that you like her requesting
in her normal voice and that's why you said okay.