is round the corner. You feel elated and excited to start
a new life with your partner. But deep down there you are
a little frenzied, you are nervous and there is an unknown
fear inside. It becomes difficult for you to understand where
all your anxieties are coming from. Many questions keep disturbing
you such as:
- What if
the marriage doesn't work well?
- What am
I getting myself into?
- Am I taking
the right decisionů..should I wait a bit?
- Is this
person I am marrying right for me
no matter how much you are in love with the person you are
marrying it is quite natural to be nervous before taking the
major step of your life.
we have brought for you a few tips to help you overcome premarital
fears and tensions.
with your Fiancée and have a heart-to-heart talk.
Good communication is the cornerstone of a happy marriage.
Reflect upon what you enjoy most about each other. The
factors that make you think you'll be happy together and
what is really important to you in life and love. Tell
him how much you love him and look forward to your future
together. But also get your fears and anxieties out.
to a quiet place to 'listen' to your feelings away from
the pressures of the forthcoming wedding.
to couples who have survived and celebrated many years
of marriage. They can be a good source of support and
great role models.
aside some time before the wedding to spend a romantic
evening with your partner away from the entire wedding
talk and plans.
and accept the fact that no matter how well you know each
other, life after marriage changes with new responsibilities
and duties coming in. Thus getting pre-wedding jitters
down in a quiet place - do some deep breathing - get in
tough with your feelings and what your heart wants and
some possible changes that may have taken place or that
you have discovered since the engagement. Is your partner
exhibiting a different behaviour or engaging in activities
you disapprove of? These are things that should be addressed
before you proceed with the wedding plans.
drinking more water instead of caffeine and sugar-loaded
liquids. Reduce salt intake. Caffeine, sugar and salt
cause chemical reactions to your nervous system by making
you jumpy, nervous and high-strung.
and singing are great ways to reduce the stress.
Exercises will also help you remain calm and composed:
leg and arm stretches to help tone and to remove built-up
tension from your muscles.
a brisk walk. The more energy you use, the more stress
you rid yourself of.
While walking, place three fingers just below your naval,
pressing in gently while breathing in and out. This exercise
helps increase energy, reduce toxins and keeps you more
focused. Repeat 10 times.
a few moments each day, preferably at night before going
to sleep, and do breathing exercises. Breathing deeply,
in a rhythmic fashion, helps to relax your mind, body
and nervous system.
ancient art of yoga is extremely beneficial in reducing
everyday stress. Sit in a chair with feet hip distance
apart. Assume the chin mudra (hand posture) with hands
on knees, palms up. Close your eyes, take a deep breath.
Now count to six with each inhales and exhales.
simple exercise for releasing tension from the neck and
back can be done anytime : Bring shoulders up to ears,
squeeze hard, then drop. Repeat 10 times.
are some more tips to relieve tension on those busy days surrounding
the lights in the bathroom and take a nice, hot bath.
is an easy at home treatment that's inexpensive and
totally relaxing. A favourite scent-try lavender essential
oil - added to the bath or mixed with lotion for an
effect that's calming and not sedating.
in a tub ful of bubbles and feel tensions melt away.
a dry bristle brush or loofah, work small brush strokes
on the bottom of justify foot, then move up justify
leg. Repeat on right side. Use a circular motion on
hip area. Work up from justify hand and arm in same
your eyes and imagine yourself in a very soothing and
pleasant spot or situation. This helps bring your body
and brain into a fluid state