are days when you are in an awful mood and no matter
how hard you try, it just wouldn't go. You are constantly
shouting on someone or the other. Be it your husband,
your children, your maid or your sub-ordinate, if things
are not your way, they have had it. Generally your mood
is fine while talking with your friends or boss but
somehow when it comes to family or your employees, you
don't spare them. Does all this sound familiar?
a day or two of bad mood can be accounted for and you
can blame it all on PMS. But when there are more bad
mood days in a month than good mood days, then there
is trouble. Then not only does your relationship suffer
but your bad mood can have a long term effect on your
spouse and kids. If you have a very understanding and
loving family, you might get away with it, but if you
have an equally hot headed family, then your relationship
has had it. Just remember that your spouse also has
issues that he or she would like to discuss with you.
If you are consistently in a bad mood then you are blocking
communication channels. And that means that emotions
and feelings are getting trapped which might be released
only by way of an outburst that will only create a rift
between the couple.
of Bad Moods?
can be a number of reasons that cause bad moods. One
of them is frustration. If you are frustrated with your
work or you do not like the way things are at your work,
you tend to take out the frustration on your family.
The second reason is anger and irritation. For example,
your boss said something hurtful to you. You did not
have the guts to reply back and so you swallow the anger
and humiliation only to take it out on your near and
dear ones. Irritation can be by a near relative also
whom your respect and you have to be nice to. Another
reason can be rivalry and jealousy. A close friend or
your sister or sometimes your spouse (someone close)
must be doing very good in life, much better than you
are and this is a reason that triggers bad mood. Being
left behind or a sense of insecurity and failure takes
on, which makes you miserable. That is when you start
having bad moods.
can you do to get rid of your bad moods?
every relationship has a limit to sustain tension and
the day you have crossed the limit then your relationship
is bound to suffer. It is upon you to exceed and remain
within the limits. Sooner or later, the cracks will
begin to appear in the marriage. Therefore you need
to identify the cause of your bad mood and work towards
getting rid of it. Talk to your spouse about your problems
instead of bottling them up within and taking out your
frustrations on your family. If you are not comfortable
talking with your spouse, talk to a friend. Only discussing
your problems will make you feel good. You can also
consult a psychiatrist.
your job is not giving you the satisfaction that you
crave for, then search for another job. If your boss
is a complete jerk, then stand up to him and show him
that you are not going to take his crap. Report the
matter to his senior, resign from the job or just learn
to deal with the matter instead of taking out the irritation
on your family and sub-ordinates. If your close relative
says something that you don't approve of then just be
honest and tell the person about it. If the relative
is being hurtful and insulting you in some way then
tell him or her to their face, "Excuse me, but
I feel you are insulting me and I demand an apology",
instead of just treating the whole thing as a joke---which
we tend to do often.
short, deal with your problems in a more reasonable
and wise manner. Do not ruin your relationship and family
for things that have no meaning. You are very lucky
that you have a family that loves and cares about you.
Cherish it and bond with it. Don't let love slip away
from your hands.