TO BE CONFIDENT AT WORK
you suffering from work place blues? Are you suffering
from low self-confidence at work? Well the trick is
to adopt a positive attitude towards work, your colleagues
and your superiors and believe me it will work wonders
at making you feel 10 feet tall. Work blues hit us even
during our best days. But what if it is your lack of
self-confidence that is making you feel low and keeping
you from achieving greater heights at work? Here are
some pointers to help boost your level of self-confidence.
Travelling without a map or proper directions can get
you lost easily. Create a career map by listing the
areas you feel you lack confidence in. This could include
your fear of making presentations or your inability
to make a quick recovery after you have made a mistake.
This list will provide you with a better picture of
what is dampening your confidence level, and it guides
you when you make improvements. Also, start adopting
a positive attitude. Replace the "cannots" with more
"cans". Keep in mind that you have the power to choose
and make decisions that can have a positive impact at
work. You are not powerless to change things. Do not
become too pressured to effect change immediately. If
you are relaxed and focused, you will accomplish more.
Remember, you should only compete with yourself.
Don't be shy
Say you have just joined the company, or have just been
posted to a new department. How can you overcome your
shyness and start making new friends? Shyness results
because you focus too much on yourself, your fears and
your insecurities. Therefore, start focusing on others
instead. Find common ground. Show genuine interest in
what your colleagues tell you; do not just nod mindlessly.
Use the other person's name when you speak. This not
only makes the conversation more personal, but it also
helps you remember names more quickly. Finally, do not
underestimate the power of a smile. A smile speaks volumes
and makes you more approachable. Once your peers accept
you, you will feel better about yourself.
It may sound ironic, but taking risks actually boosts
your self-confidence. You just have to adopt the right
attitude at the beginning. Assume responsibility for
the risk and have clear ideas about where you are heading.
Having a positive attitude towards risk-taking is a
good way to make great strides forward.
Do not fear criticism
Do not be caught up in the emotions brought on by criticism.
Your confidence should not be hurt by inflated words
like "always" or "never". Do not go into immediate denial
or counter-attack mode. Instead, consider the source
and decide if the person really has the expertise or
knowledge to make his or her comments. If you decide
that the words are not just empty accusations, look
at it as an opportunity to improve yourself. Forget
trying to control what others think of you. Instead,
control what you can -- your own thoughts and feelings.
If you are unsure about the colours to choose for your
clothes, start safe and go with neutral and discreet
tones. Wear colours that you feel suit you. Being comfortable
with how you look often translates to being comfortable
with who you are. And as you become more certain of
yourself, you can spice up the look with a little colour.
Women can enhance their look with colourful scarves
and accessories and men can get away with colourful
How you are at work is strongly influenced by how you
are outside work. Away from work, pursue your interests
passionately. Even if these passions are not related
to your work, your enjoyment of life will reflect on
your disposition when you are at work.